We are here to help people to understand what they do in terms of Meditation on a Spiritual Path. It is not straightforward and not only do people need to look at themselves and how they react to circumstances at a worldly level, they need to find time in their busy lives to actually Meditate in the first place.
That is why they see any progress they make as ‘theirs’, because they do actually feel it was their achievement.
We know that (N) doesn’t like the term ‘my Second’, but you have to look where they are coming from.
This is a changing world, more than ever before. People are feeling lost and they don’t know why. Even though they have many friends, they feel lonely, without purpose and resolve. Looking for fulfillment in the world by self gratification which never brings lasting pleasure. To get them to actually sit and Meditate is an achievement in itself. So, for the record, We don’t mind what they call the States; We are happy with what they have achieved.
Focus on being kind and helpful, just as you are doing now, with no judgment!